This was a post that I wrote last year and have been holding back but as 2019 gets underway, I thought it would be important to post.
Can you get absolution from someone in a coma?
I know this sounds absolutely ridiculous, but I noticed that there were many, many people looking for absolution from my sister while she was lying in a coma. It started to make me feel angry.
Why can’t we resolve conflicts when someone is able to respond? Why do we wait until the last moment to try to get absolution?
Let’s take a look at the word absolution.
What does it actually mean? Absolution means – formal release from guilt, obligation, or punishment.
There were many people who came to the hospital as she was lying there trying to resolve their conflicts with her. (I wondered if it were me, how many people would be there trying to get absolution.)
Thankfully, my sister and I didn’t have any conflicts, or none that I knew about. We would argue as sisters do, but we hadn’t had an all out blowout fight since before my mother died. We ended on a good note and I have no regrets.
I started to think as I sat there at her hospital bed every day, why certain people felt compelled to have a private conversation with her, when I knew that she was in conflict with them? Did they think that they would get absolution?
I don’t think it works that way. If you have something to say, say it. If you feel you’re in conflict, resolve it. Don’t wait. Life is too short, and that is not a cliche!
Holding on to negativity will only hurt you and to try to get absolution, well, it’s just a little too late if you don’t act now.